If you're in a relationship and looking to increase both pleasure and intimacy, consider experimenting with a sex toy created with partnered play in mind. Far from being a sign that your intimacy is somehow lacking, using pleasure products with your partner shows that you're open to exploration and adventure. Shopping for a toy together can even count as foreplay. Browse together online from your bed, or have an adventurous date at your local adult store.

Playing with others is fun, and love is cool. But if you're single or coupled, remember that you can use these toys on your own as well. There are also options for all bodies, from cock rings to G-Spot and prostate stimulation, to clitoral pleasure. To help you and your boo come together, we've chosen a selection of our favorite couples toys. From cock rings that can be work on bio penises and strap-on dildos alike, to vibrators worn on your partner's finger, to riding crops for those looking to explore BDSM, these toys cater to a range of preferences and budgets. We've also added a selection of vibrators worn inside the vagina that basically turn your vagina into a vibrator, for all parties to enjoy. You might just choose to stay in for your next date night.

Lelo Tor 2Lelo Tor 2

This cock ring from luxury sex toy company Lelo can slide over a bio penis or a strap-on dildo alike. It's a wonderful option for all genders and orientations to enhance penetrative sex.

Lovehoney Black Heart Riding CropLovehoney Black Heart Riding Crop

If you're turned on by impact play, which just means any sort of sexual fun that involves impact on the body, such as spanking, flogging, etc., this affordable crop from Lovehoney is an excellent way to begin playing with BDSM toys. Crops add an extra element of fun and a step up from spanking, but they're also very safe and low-risk, so you can enjoy dominance and submission safely. Still remember to use a safe word, and make contact with fleshy areas of the body (like the booty) while enjoying impact play.

Hitachi Magic WandHitachi Magic Wand

The Magic Wand is known as the "Cadillac of Vibrators" for a reason. It's powerful and if you're looking for a sure way to get off, it's likely your best bet. The magic wand can also be used for super freaky fun with a partner. If one partner has a clit, the other can take the magic wand into their hands and control the on and off button. This can lead to some dominance and submission play. The handle also works wonders to add to penetrative sex and help the partner with a clit get off.

Dame Products EvaDame Products Eva

The wings of this hands-free vibrator are designed to nestle in the labia so that the toy stays put and stimulates your clit during penetrative sex. While no one should feel self-conscious about touching their clitoris during partnered play, there's something liberating about letting your hands take a vacation — or freeing them up to explore other zones of the body.

Pipedream Sex Therapy KitPipedream Sex Therapy Kit

Ugh, sex therapy, how nice does that sound? You mean someone can just take care of me for a night, catering to my needs, listening to me, and it's a person I'm having consensual sex with? This sex therapy kit from Pipedream contains red fur-lined handcuffs, a mini vibrator, massage oil, and even edible body paint. It's like art therapy but also sex with someone you love.

Liberator Ramp and Wedge ComboLiberator Ramp and Wedge Combo

Have you ever slipped a pillow under your bum during penetrative sex for a more intense sensation? It's fun, right? Liberator's ramp and wedge combo are created to make your favorite positions feel even better. Along with making penetration from behind more comfortable for all partners, the wedge and ramp can also be used to kneel on during oral sex, so no more hard floors or rug burn while giving a blowjob.

Jelly Rancher Pleasure Anal Training Butt Plug KitJelly Rancher Pleasure Anal Training Butt Plug Kit

The wonderful thing about buttholes is that we all have them. So, regardless of your orientation, body, or gender, you get to have fun with butt plugs. However, different people may find they prefer different sizes. And you know what's ultra-romantic? Having a matching butt plug with your partner. You can even wear them at the same time. Three-piece sets such as this anal training kit allows you to find the size that's comfiest for you, with extra to spare for your partner, too.

CloneAWilly KitClone-A-Willy Kit

Yes, putting molding powder over your partner's penis to create a replica dildo feels silly. But sex doesn't always have to be rough and serious, sometimes, it's okay to have fun and laugh. Plus, if you're in a relationship with a partner with a penis who travels, it can be comforting to have a clone of their willy at home (lol).

Doc Johnson Crystal Jellies Realistic DoubleEnded DildoDoc Johnson Crystal Jellies Realistic Double-Ended Dildo

This beautiful purple dildo from Doc Johnson is double-sided, so two people with vaginas can use it at the same time. Of course, any gender, orientation, or orifice can enjoy it with enough lube. If your partner has a penis, sometimes it's really fun and exciting for them to penetrate you with something other than their bio penis.

WeVibe Anniversary CollectionWe-Vibe Anniversary Collection

It doesn't need to be your anniversary to celebrate love with We-Vibe's anniversary collection. The set includes the We-Vibe Sync, which is worn inside the vagina. The person wearing it enjoys dual internal G-Spot and external clitoral stimulation, and if your partner has a penis, they enjoy the vibrations as they penetrate you. Both products are water-proof, so try them in the bathtub.

Desire Luxury USB Rechargeable Remote Control Vibrating PantiesUSB Rechargeable Remote Control Vibrating Panties

Sure, vibrating panties can be pretty gimmicky. But they can also be pretty damn fun — especially when you invest a bit more and get a pair with a satisfyingly powerful vibrator, like this model. There's something incredibly sexy about being in public with your partner as they control your pleasure while no one around has any idea. Be warned, though: With this toy's eight speeds and 12 patterns, you may have trouble maintaining your composure.

Lovehoney Bionic Bullet 5 Function Vibrating Cock Ring5 Function Vibrating Cock Ring

This stretchy, affordable cock ring is just as fun for sex toy beginners as it is for seasoned pros. It has one ring that wraps around the base of the penis and a second ring that nestles between the testicles and the pelvis, providing gentle but pleasurable constriction for both dick and balls. This product's best feature, though, is its powerful bullet vibrator, which is perfectly positioned to stimulate the clit during penetrative sex.

WeVibe SyncWe-Vibe Sync

The We-Vibe Sync is designed to stay put as you change positions, fitting comfortably inside the vagina during penetrative sex and providing both internal and external stimulation with its deep vibrations. Better yet, the free We-Connect app lets you control the toy from anywhere in the world — meaning your partner can have a hand in your pleasure no matter how far away they are.

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The myth: It’s abusive. Actually, it’s about trust and communication.
In the child’s game, Trust Me, one person stands behind the other. The one in front falls backward, trusting the other to catch them before crashing to the floor. Trust Me contains an element of danger, the risk of not getting caught and getting hurt. The person falling places great trust in the person catching. When the falling player trusts the catcher enough to let go completely, and the catch happens as planned, both players experience a moment of exhilaration that’s difficult to duplicate any other way.
It’s About Trust
BDSM is similar. The myth is that it’s abusive and weird—whips and chains! Actually, it’s about trust. When trust trumps the possibility of harm, the result can feel incredibly intimate and erotic.
There are several terms for BDSM: power-play or domination-submission (Ds) because one lover has control over the other, at least nominally; sado-masochism (SM), which involves spanking, flogging or other types of intense sensation; and bondage and discipline (BD), which involves restraint. But the current term is BDSM.
Many people consider BDSM perverted, dehumanizing, or worse. But aficionados call it the most loving, nurturing, intimate form of human contact and play. People can have sex without conversation, negotiation, or any emotional connection. But in BDSM, the players always arrange things in advance with clear, intimate communication, which creates a special erotic bond.
DeSade and Sacher-Masoch
Ancient Greek art depicts BDSM. The Kama Sutra (300 A.D,) touts erotic spanking, and European references date from the 15th century. But BDSM flowered during the 18th century, when some European brothels began specializing in restraint, flagellation and other “punishments” that “dominant” women meted out to willingly “submissive” men.
In 1791 the French Marquis de Sade (1740-1814) published the first SM novel, Justine, which included whipping, flogging, nipple clamping, and restraints. His name gave us “sadism.” DeSade was imprisoned for Criminal insanity, one reason many people consider the sexual practices he popularized crazy.
In 1870, Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1836-1895), published the novel, Venus in Furs, about male sexual submission. His name inspired “masochism.”
In 1905, Freud coined the word, “sadomasochism,” calling its enjoyment neurotic. The original Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-I, 1952) classified sexual sadism as a “deviation.” DSM-II (1968) did the same for masochism. DSM-IV (1994) lists SM as a psychiatric disorder.
Just Another Way to Play
But all available evidence shows that the vast majority of BDSM enthusiasts are mentally healthy and typical in every respect—except that they find conventional (“vanilla”) sex unfulfilling and want something more intense and intimate. Before condemning BDSM, remember that not too long ago, oral sex and homosexuality were considered “perverse.”
Two to 3 percent of American adults play with BDSM, most occasionally, some often, and a few 24/7. That’s around 5 million people. Meanwhile, around 20 percent of adults report some arousal from BDSM images or stories.
There are public BDSM clubs and private groups in every major metropolitan area and throughout rural America. Many cities have several.
Never Abusive
If you’re repulsed by BDSM, don’t play that way. But BDSM imagery pervades society. Henry Kissinger once called power “the ultimate aphrodisiac.” Kings and nations have fought to dominate others. Capitalism assumes a dog-eat-dog world where succeeding means exerting control. And in sports, players strive to “humiliate” opponents.
But what kind of person feels sexually aroused by pain? Many people who are perfectly normal in every other respect. Again, consider sports: When football players make brilliant plays, teammates often slap their butts, punch them, or slap their helmets. Recipients accept this “abuse” gratefully as a sign of appreciation and affection. Or consider a hike up a mountain. You get sunburned. Thorns scratch your legs. And by the time you reach the summit, you’re aching and exhausted. Yet you feel exhilarated.
Sadly, media BDSM has grossly distorted the pain that submissives experience. It’s more theatrical than real. When performed by ethical, nurturing dominants (“doms” or “tops, ), BDSM is never abusive.
“It’s always consensual,” says Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101. “Abuse is not.” You don’t need restraints, gags, or whips to abuse someone. In loving hands, the equipment heightens sensual excitement, allowing both players to enjoy their interaction, or “scene,” as good, clean, erotic fun.” When BDSM inflicts real pain, it’s always carefully controlled with the submissive (“sub” or “bottom”) specifying limits clearly beforehand.
Subs are very particular about the kinds of pain—many prefer to call it intense sensation—that bring them pleasure. “They experience the pain of bee stings or a punch in the face exactly like anyone else,” Wiseman says, “and dislike it just as much.”
“Safe” Words
BDSM is more theatrical than real. Participants carefully choreograph their moves in advance.
First, participants agree on a “safe” word, a stop signal that the sub can invoke at any time. The safe word immediately stops the action—at least until the players have discussed the reason the bottom invoked it, and have mutually agreed to resume. A popular safe word is “red light.”
Some terms should not be used as safe words: “stop,” “no,” or “don’t” because both tops and bottoms often enjoy having subs “beg” tops to “stop,” secure in the knowledge that they won’t.
Any top who fails to honor pre-arranged safe words violates the bottom’s trust and destroys the relationship. Tops who fail to honor safe words are ostracized from the BDSM community.
Subs Are in Charge
Although bottoms feign subservience, the irony of BDSM is that the sub is in charge. Bottoms can invoke the stop signal and tops vow to obey immediately. Meanwhile, tops act dominant, but they must also be caring and nurturing, taking bottoms to their agreed-upon limit, but never beyond it. In this way, BDSM provides an opportunity for everyone to experiment with taking and surrendering power, while always feeling safe and cared for. People who enjoy BDSM say it results in amazing erotic intensity.
Learning the Ropes
Before experimenting with BDSM, get some instruction. Read a book, take a class, visit Web sites or clubs.
It takes extensive negotiation to arrive at mutually agreeable BDSM play. Wiseman says that before every scene, players must negotiate all aspects of it, from the players to safe words to everyone’s limits.
How to Begin
First, decide if you're more into S&M or B&D. If the former, then spanking is the way many people begin. If the latter, blindfolding the sub can be fun. 
What is Intimacy?
Relationship authorities define intimacy as clear, frank, self-revealing emotional communication. But many people equate “intimacy” and “sex.” To be intimate is to be sexual and visa versa. Only it isn’t. It’s quite possible to be sexual with a person you hardly know, the “perfect stranger.”
Most couples don’t discuss their lovemaking very much, which diminishes intimacy. But BDSM absolutely requires ongoing, detailed discussion. Players must plan every aspect of their scenes beforehand and evaluate them afterward. Many BDSM aficionados say that pre-scene discussions are as intimate, erotic, and relationship-enhancing as the scenes themselves. And couples who enjoy occasional power play but who are not exclusively into BDSM often remark that it enhances their non-BDSM “vanilla” sex because the practice they get negotiating scenes makes it easier to discuss other aspects of their sexuality. The skills required for BDSM include trust, clear communication, self-acceptance, and acceptance of the other person. Those same skills that enhance relationships and sex—no matter how you play.
Michael Castleman M.A.
All About Sex

Although many experts believe that a majority of marriages today are in distress because of financial reasons, problems with sex and sexuality rank high, too. In fact, the topic of sex is the number one problem discussed in online relationship forums. It seems easier to talk to a stranger online than to your own partner! These conversations can bring up a log of anxiety in you and cause you to avoid having them altogether. Know that there are some strategies to make these talks easier and you are likely to find it worth the effort. 

When Is the Right Time to Talk About Sex Problems?

  • Do not talk about sexual problems in your bedroom or at bedtime. Pick a more "neutral" location. Make sure the kids are not in earshot!
  • Do not talk about sex right after having sex. Again, pick a more "neutral" time as well. 
  • Do not blindside your spouse. If you want to talk about sexual problems, let your spouse know (without placing blame) that you think the two of you need to have a talk about your sexual intimacy. Set up a time to have the talk.

How to Talk About Sex Problems

  • Have a "soft start" to the conversation. Begin with your goal to feel closer and connected with your spouse. Avoid blaming. 
  • If you do not want to create more problems in your sex life, don't purchase any sex advice books or sex toys without discussing the issue with your spouse first.
  • Talk with one another about your expectations, your fears, your desires, your concerns, and be honest! It is critical to talk about your innermost feelings about this. 
  • Do not be afraid to talk about what you like sexually and what you don't like. Your comfort level is quite important to a satisfying sex life. 
  • Realize that you may have to have a few conversations and not just one long conversation. 
  • Explore with one another your "sexual styles." All couples have these styles or moods at some point in time during their married lives:
    • Spiritual: This is a union of mind, body, and soul that reflects your deep appreciation of being with one another. It can be created by noticing the small moments in your lives.
    • Funny: This style is when you can laugh and tease one another in bed. It is about having fun together. There is a light and playful undertone. 
    • Angry: This is making love even when you're ticked off at each other. This style can be healing. However, be sure that your problems are eventually talked about and resolved.
    • Lusty: This style is wicked and flirty. You may be giving each other seductive looks or doing a "quickie." This is also about the joy of having sex just for the sake of sex.
    • Tender: This style is the gentle, romantic, healing sex that involves massages, light touches, and ministering to one another. You both are into the sensations of sex and focus on giving each other pleasure. 
    • Fantasy: The fantasy style is a collaboration between the two of you to be daring and to experiment a bit. Be careful about sharing your personal sexual fantasies with one another. If you do decide to share your fantasies with your spouse, the two of you need to set guidelines and honor each other's limits.

It has been said that "Good lovers are made, not born." If you truly want your sexual relationship to be all that it can be, you should take the time to talk with one another. Communication is the key to great sex. This conversation is necessary for all couples—whether you are newlyweds or older, long-married couples. Having a healthy sex life is a great gift and a gift to be enjoyed and nurtured. It is what makes a marriage special—more than just a platonic relationship. 

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You might be surprised to learn that your penis is too sensitive. Does that sound counter-intuitive?

Consider that many guys ejaculate much earlier than they want – sometimes in less than a minute after penetration – because they’re overwhelmed by the excitement.
There is such a thing as being too sexy when you have little control.
That’s the fun part of using a male desensitizer. You can use a product like Dynamo Delay Spray to boost your stamina and see how long you last. Call it a sexy game but there’s nothing quite as enjoyable when you time how long you last while your partner teases you into climaxing.
Male Desensitizers Explained
A male desensitizer is a spray with a mild anesthetic. You can also call it a delay spray – it’s designed to reduce penile sensitivity, so you slow down and enjoy the ride.
The scientist in you might want to know the details: the anesthetic in Jo For Him PROLonger is called benzocaine, which is designed to inhibit voltage-dependant sodium channels (VDSCs) on the nerve membrane. This stops the prorogation of action – in this case, to sexual stimuli.
Basically, it tells your penis to slow down and enjoy the ride.
Oh the Fun You’ll Have…
A male desensitizer spray is designed to help guys last longer in bed. That’s exactly what happens with Stud 100 – you just spray it on once or twice (it’s dose dependant) on your Johnson and rub it into your shaft and glans. From there it absorbs deep into your penile tissue and bribes your nerves the take the night off.
Meaning?
You get pleasure like you’ve never experienced. Imagine your partner teasing you, having you at the edge of orgasm. But you delay it, and prolong that enjoyment. It’s all possible when you use a male desensitizer!
Try MAX Control Male Sex Spray or Gel, Dynamo Delay, Stud 100 or Jo For Him PROLonger.
We’ve got several products to choose from.
In short, a male desensitizer is a spray applied to your penis that makes sex last for what seems like forever! Who wouldn’t want that?!

Shopping for a vibrator should be fun but it can also be overwhelming whether you are buying your first vibrator, or still haven’t found the best fit.

Buying a sex toy is like shopping for any other luxury product; you shop around and compare your options.You are making an investment in your pleasure so you want to consider what you really want out of a vibrator - consider size, shape, power, materials, and price. With proper care your toy can last a long time, so figuring out your wants and needs beforehand are worth it.

When choosing SIZE, consider both length and girth as different sizes of vibrators are ideal for different types of stimulation. If you want an insertable toy pay attention to the insertable length - the amount of the toy that actually goes inside you.

Small - a small vibe 1-3” is ideal for clitoral stimulation or as a travel size option.
Medium - medium vibes 3-5” most closely imitate the average penis size and work for both clitoral and G-Spot stimulation.
Large - large vibes at least 5” are best for deeper penetration.

Next figure out what sensations you crave and this will determine the kind of SHAPE you are looking for. Think about how you usually self pleasure: Do you focus on your clitoris, G-spot or both?Do you enjoy intense, localized stimulation or sensations spread around the vulva? Do you masturbate the same way every time or do you switch it up?

There are four basic types of vibrators: external, internal, G-spot and dual action with both internal and external components. External vibes are best for stimulating the clitoris while internal vibrators are meant for penetration. About 70% of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation alone, so for most beginners and external toy, like a bullet or finger vibe, is a great place to start.

However, an internal vibrator works just as well externally so you can try it both ways or a dual-action vibrator. Versatility is key and you won’t know what you like until you try it!

Also consider the intensity of the vibrator when determining the one you want. Vibrators can be plugged into an outlet, battery powered or rechargeable. Plug-ins tend to be quite powerful but less portable. Most vibrators are battery powered which can be convenient but expensive to maintain. Rechargeable toys are a good option for regular users but may require planning as some don’t work while they are charging. Rechargeable vibes typically cost a bit more to start out as well.

The intensity and quality/materials of the vibrator can also determine the noise level which is something to consider if you have room mates.

It’s important to know the type of material your sex toy is made of. Medical grade silicone is your best bet - it feels silky, transmits vibration well, warms to the touch quickly and is non-porous which makes it easy to clean. Just remember not to use silicone lube with a silicone vibrator as it will break down the material over time. Hard plastic vibes also offer strong vibrations and is easy to clean, while steel and glass are easy to clean and warm/cool for a different sensation.

Consider whether you want your vibrator to be waterproof for shower or bath use. Most vibes are splash proof while others can be submerged completely underwater. Also consider buying a case for your toys to keep them clean between uses.

The aesthetics of your vibrator are just important as its features in turning you on, no matter how powerful it is, if it’s intimidating or garish to you, don’t buy it. Consider whether you want something realistic, cute, or super discreet.

Here are 8 types of vibrators you’ll have to choose from:

Bullets and Eggs - are very small and usually fairly powerful for their size. They are perfect for clitoral, anal, nipple stimulation and shallow insertion. Eggs are typically attached by wire to a remote control. Discreet, typically affordable and simple to use, these are perfect for a first time buyer.
Finger Vibrators - are small bullet vibrators mounted in a textured sleeve that can be worn as a ring over your fingertip. Best for clitoral stimulation, think of it as an enhancement to your typical masturbation routine.
Mini Vibrators - A mini vibrator, lipstick vibe or pocket rocket is very similar to a bullet vibrator, but slightly larger and therefore sometimes easier to hold on to. They are also discreet, affordable and simple to use.
Classic Vibrators - are probably what first comes to mind when you picture a sex toy - a cylinder geared for penetration. Classic vibes can be textured or smooth, soft or hard, so consider what kind of sensation you prefer.
G-Spot Vibrators - are a twist on the classic vibe in that they have a curved tip for G-spot stimulation.
Magic Wands and Body Massagers - are very powerful but may be too intense for beginners. Body massagers are typically smaller and have more variation in speed. Women over 40 typically need more power to get off than younger women, so these are great for an extra boost.
Rabbit Vibrators - future both a vibrating shaft for penetration and a clitoral stimulater designed to generate blended orgasms. These are extremely popular.
Hand-free - or strap-on, sometimes called butterfly vibrators, and vibrating panties are hands free and typically have remote controlled options.